Should I worry that my boyfriend and I take our iPad to bed with us to play ‘Angry Birds’ each night?
When in a couple, is it wrong to not do a couples costume for Halloween? Is it also wrong to do a couples costume with your gay best friend instead of your boyfriend?
Not only is it not wrong, it is the kind thing to do. Think about it: when you were single you wanted to kill all those sappy too-cute couples in costume. So consider not dressing up together a good deed on behalf of all the singletons and general icky-ness haters out there (me). Besides, it is important to exert your independence in your relationship–both to preserve your own sanity and the health of said relationship. Doing things separately every now and again only makes all the stuff you do together that much more fun.
In answer to your second question, simple: like all good friends, boyfriends serve different purposes. Which is why we have lots of different friends–because they are useful for any variety of things. Harsh, but true. And if it is more fun to dress up with your gay best friend than your boyfriend for Halloween, then screw your boyfriend.
(If he is nice to you about it, that is.)
I don’t know what ‘Angry Birds’ is, but I assume it’s a game on your iPad and not a game you play with the iPad in bed, which is fine, completely normal. I commend you for being able to play any game together without arguing. I think it’s actually healthy and nice that you have this cooperative time together each night, even if you’re not getting physical. You should only worry if you become obsessed with the game so much that you do nothing else and never mix it up. For example, it’s Friday night and you were invited to three parties, one of which is a good friend’s birthday, it’s perfect weather, and you’re in a good mood. Do you A.) get dolled up and keep up your appearances as a smiling couple about town or B.) stay home and play ‘Angry Birds.’
The answer is allowed to be B only if one or both of you is sick with a fever, or there’s a blizzard outside and your snow boots were stolen. But it’s LA, so I don’t think you have snow.
We’re all insanely busy, we put too much on our plate, so it’s okay to be so exhausted when you finally get home that all you want to do is snuggle together and play games in your sweatpants. Any time together, when you’re paying attention to each other, even with an iPad in between, is good. Just make sure you do leave the iPad on the nightstand sometimes, or you could risk becoming real life angry birds and that would be unfortunate.